Embrace Your Flaws

Lately I’ve come to realize that a lot of girls (and guys too), including myself, have some serious issues with the way we look in pictures.  We are so careful about what we post, making sure every picture is at the perfect angle, perfect lighting, perfect everything.  Our makeup has to be just right, and even if there’s a chance we do post a #nomakeup photo, it still has to look perfect, or we put a dang filter on it.  I realized today just how completely ridiculous this is.

I decided to post a photo of myself that I absolutely hate to show you how ridiculous I’m probably being:

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To you, this photo probably isn’t the best one of me you’ve seen, or maybe you don’t see anything wrong with it.  To me, this is photo is a hot mess.  I could seriously point out about 5,000 things wrong with me in this photo, no kidding. For example, I have no makeup on, I have always hated my teeth so I hate pictures where I’m smiling with my mouth open, I look like I just ate a smurf (due to eating blue cotton candy before this photo was taken), I think I look a lot fatter because this was taken before I started working out, my hair is a hot mess, etc.  I could go on forever.

Ridiculous right? It doesn’t stop there.  Even after I decided to write a post about this, I had a different photo I chose to show you guys:

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Yeah, it’s not my favorite photo, but honestly, it’s not too bad either.  I’m wearing a ton of makeup, and I’m pretty sure there’s some kind of filter on this picture.  Ridiculous. Even after writing about how we need to embrace our flaws, I wasn’t embracing my flaws.

Now, I’m not saying that you should take bad photos of yourself all the time and posting good photos of yourself is bad.  There’s nothing wrong with loving a good picture of yourself.  Nothing. But you shouldn’t be freaking out about any photo that is taken of you that happens to show a few of your imperfections.  In fact, I bet half, or even all the “imperfections” you think you have, other people wouldn’t even consider imperfections.

I read a quote the other day that I haven’t been able to get out of my head for a while now:

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It got me to thinking and this is so true! I used to be self-conscious about my scars and marks from when I had cancer, or even just from falling down and scraping my knee, but they are proof that I have lived, and gone through so many things.  We do start out as a blank canvas, and by the end of our lives we look completely different because we have lived actual lives.

And regarding my title, your flaws aren’t even flaws.  What is considered a flaw on someone is just what society has decided to consider not normal.  There’s nothing wrong with not being normal.  In fact, I think a lot of people that are considered completely normal are freakin boring…and no one likes a boring person.  I’m sorry if this post is a little too direct, but I have just had it with everyone having body image issues and caring too much about how they look. I’m not blaming anyone for being self-conscious about themselves, I’m blaming society.  But, we are society.  So we need to individually change how we think in order to change what “society” thinks.

So to recap: you’re beautiful, you’re perfect, stop worrying, and go ahead and post a crazy photo of yourself and decide to not care about it. That is all.

Comments

  1. I enjoyed reading your posting. You make a lot of valid points. We do live in a society that judges women by the way we look. We all have body issues. I have a scar on my left hand from being burned by an iron when I was 2 years old. When I was younger I got teased and asked about it all the time. As I’ve gotten older the scar has faded and it’s barely noticeable. I rarely wear make up. I’m one of the lucky ones who don’t have to wear makeup. Plus it makes my skin itch. So, 99% of my pictures I’m not wearing makeup and I don’t even know what a “filter” for pictures is. I spent the majority of my life morbidly obese and trust me people treat you different when you are 150 lbs. overweight. And when it comes to dating there’s not too many men interested in dating obese women. Now that I’ve lost all this weight I have loose skin. So, I might look good with clothes on, but not so good without. I’m considering surgery, but I don’t have finances for plastic surgery. Having children also changes your body. In our society as women get older our beauty fades while men are allowed to age gracefully.

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    1. SunnyBri says:

      I love your comment! And yea I noticed how much weight you lost from the pictures you’ve posted. You look so good! You could possibly set up a gofundme.com account to raise money for the surgery! And I never realized that men do age “gracefully” while women are seen as getting uglier!

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